True Light, the Truth and True Feelings (2)

C-mo shared her views on “True Light, the Truth and True Feelings, “I am a genuine person. Therefore whenever I notice any of our curator staff not living out an honest life, I will ‘clash’ with them in order to help them live out their true self. The book, ‘Intimate Opponent,’ talks about couples getting in the ‘Couple’s Boxing Ring,’ which is for the couple’s real selves to communicate with each other. Otherwise, the couple’s relationship becomes unreal and distant. Our church’s couple’s camps enable many couples who know neither how to communicate, nor express their true feelings, to understand each other. This is most crucial in the couple’s relationship. Through
continuous ‘clashing’ and smoothing out the edges, Pastor Joshua and I are able to express our feelings and truly face each other. Hence, our relationship gets more genuine and intimate.

It is the same for discipleship. Cell leaders should speak out their true feelings to cell members, and encourage cell members to do likewise, so as to create intimate relationships. When Pastor Joshua and I hold the MG cell group, we do not discuss beforehand, because we have developed a good rapport. Expecting to build true and intimate relationships with my first generation disciples and staff, I ‘clash’ with them. Our relationship is not ministry-based. Instead, it is our mutual desire to know each other. In this way, they have real relationship with me as well as with one another, making us as one evenly-kneaded dough. This wellkneaded dough is of true and transparent relationship which shall bless others. The church shall then be more closely-knitted and with deeper understanding of each other, making her yet more effective. •